Processing Our Emotions in a Healthy Way

Tamara Low

Emotional Freedom Guide, Writer, Planet Advocate.

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I find feelings, thoughts, beliefs, and emotions to be such interesting and mysterious facets of our shared human experience. Feelings and emotions are always communicating something to us, guiding us, directing us, and giving us clues, feedback, and insights as to our inner workings and relation to others and the world around us. Highly Sensitive People and Empaths tend to feel feelings and emotions at an even deeper level and intensity, which brings its own uniqueness and/or challenges in learning how to befriend and process them in a healthy way. 

For numerous reasons, we each have varying degrees of acceptance and comfort with our feelings and emotions. This stems in large part from our early experiences- how the expression (or lack thereof) was modelled to us as children and in our early surroundings. My intention is to take a look at the ways in which our feelings and emotions get stifled, blocked or shut down, what happens when this happens, and how we can learn to cultivate a coherent and free-flowing relationship with this emotional part of us. 

Difficulty in Processing our Feelings and Emotions

If we experienced early trauma, abuse, neglect, belittling, being shamed, unkindness etc., we then form beliefs about ourselves, our worth and worthiness, and about others and the world around us. For example, “I am not worthy of being treated kindly and respectfully”; “people are not safe/the world is not safe”; or my feelings and emotions are too much or inconvenient for others”; therefore, it is not safe to express them. Then, we often judge ourselves for feeling a certain way that we deem or have deemed unacceptable to others, which adds layers of shame and guilt to the mix. 

We can, and often do, internally respond by rejecting or disowning a part or parts of ourselves in the attempt to adapt to our surroundings, to be or become who we think we should be, should do, or should feel. In the case of codependency, we can become hyper-aware of making sure that “others” needs are met and placed before our own.  

What am I feeling?

Additionally, we might not know what or how we feel or why we might feel a certain way. Our feelings and emotions can become stifled or blocked, which is not natural as they are mechanisms that are designed to try and protect us. We might view feelings as weak- and try to hide them from others. This can leave us unable to accept, acknowledge, feel and process or recognize our true feelings and emotions/emotional state! 

A Complicated Inner Terrain

Our inner emotional terrain can become a VERY complicated and confusing place to navigate, which can (and does) impact us in large ways, some of which we might not even be aware of. Blocked and unexpressed emotions can deeply and profoundly impact us and our mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health. Emotional pain or struggle is a block or disruption in our body’s energy system, and they are stored in our energy system, that is, until we can move, express, acknowledge, heal and process them. 

Connecting with, Processing and Expressing our Emotions

Many of us have or do deeply struggle in this area and can hold much shame for this very struggling! We may never have learnt how to have a healthy relationship with our inner world of feelings and emotions, yet we might feel that we should just know-how! I feel that we need to be kind and gentle with ourselves as we navigate this new territory. 

In 2011, Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT, or “Tapping”) re-appeared in my own life. It is my feeling that it is an extremely powerful tool or a guide to process past or present painful, confusing, and difficult emotions/stuck energy and trauma. It can help us cut through the confusion and cultivate clarity; to figure out what we are feeling or why we are/were feeling it, and help us to figure out things like what we might need to do (for us) and come to an acceptance- place with it.

Due to the accumulation of many difficult and painful life experiences, I felt like I was no longer all by myself, in the vast desert wasteland of feelings and emotions; and it offered me/and still offers me a saving grace. 

Emotional Safety  

Unfortunately, it is not always safe to share our feelings and emotions with certain people who might not have our best interests at heart. Being able to safely and honestly share and express our feelings and emotions- our intimate, inner world, with safe, kind, and compassionate people can be so important and healing. When we accept and are at peace with our feelings and emotions, magical things can happen. When we feel heard and understood, our ability to deeply and honestly connect and share with others (and the world) can become greatly enhanced. We can then learn to trust ourselves with our feelings and emotions and begin to no longer push them away or judge them. 

Learning to Process Our Emotions in a Healthy Way

Our feelings, emotions, and body sensations are our messengers, guides, a road map, even though it does not always seem that way. They hold so much wisdom and lead us to places that need attention, understanding, acknowledgement, care and healing. They also can and do alert us to certain people and situations that may not be good for us – that we need to stay clear of. It’s when we listen to and honour them and ourselves, that beautiful things can happen. 

The Gift of Emotional Freedom Techniques

I have very deep compassion, and understanding for those who have or have had to (through no fault of their own) develop a wary, mistrustful and fearful attitude towards their feelings and emotions. THIS is the reason I have chosen to dedicate my life and time, through writing, EFT and, personally, to honesty, truth, realness, openness etc.; also, to curiously welcome and talk about feelings, our shared humanity, and internal struggles. When the shame, hiding and judgement around our feelings and emotions subside, we can then be free, peaceful and safe to be as well as express who we are! 

Learning to trust, honour, welcome, befriend, heal, acknowledge, accept, and be curious about our feelings and emotions is a choice, a courageous and brave one in my eyes- which takes time and patience, but it is so worth it! If we desire to feel whole and truly alive, this is part of our growth, as well as learning how to embrace being fully human!  

I would love to assist you in processing the emotions and feelings that stand in the way of you, BEING all of you!  Feel free to reach out and schedule a  free 15-minute call today or email tamara@earth-path.com

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Earth Path Healing

Transforming our Feelings and Emotions

Welcome! 

I am passionate about combining our love of Earth with the love and care of ourselves/Spirit selves through honouring and embracing the wisdom of our emotions and feelings.

Emotions and body sensations are our greatest teachers and allies. They are constantly speaking to us, guiding us, and letting us know when we are or are not in harmony with our Spirit/True Selves.

In my experience, healing and growth bring us closer to ourselves and our Spirit and closer to peace, kindness, each other, and our Earth home.

I invite you to BE Curious about what our feelings and thoughts are communicating.

EFT Tapping and Picture tapping help us to understand our inner world, make peace with the difficulties and hear our deepest yearnings.

EFT Tapping helps us gently explore and uncover our inner voice and body’s guidance, wisdom, and direction, the places within us that need & desire to be heard, expressed, and given a voice!

Through a series of pictures, Picture Tapping helps us to resolve an issue by tapping on the images and the title of the picture, not the feelings, emotions and sensations directly. The practitioner does not need to know what the person is tapping on but guides the process through the images and colours to find a resolution.

Pranic Healing is a no-touch energy healing we can also do from a distance. Like our emotions, our energy system through our chakras holds so much wisdom as they are connected to our physical, mental and emotional health.

Our major chakras have corresponding physiological functions, and we can clear the energy and density of what does not serve us, bringing peace and balance.

I HONOUR your feelings, whatever they are. They are valuable and important. Whether it be processing ecological and climate emotions, internal difficulties, or challenges- whatever holds us back from the freedom, purpose and expression of our True Selves! 

 With Love,

Tamara