It is estimated that around 3-5% of the population are Empaths (and approximately 15-20% are Highly Sensitive People (HSPs). So what is an Empath? According to Jason Breyer, an Empath can “read and understand other people by resonating with their emotions.” Further, “they are usually hypersensitive, an attribute that enables them to extend beyond themselves into the other soul and capture their inward conditions. This allows them to know exactly what is going on with another person by ‘seeing beyond the superficial and into the true intents of a person.”
Empaths feel everything (clairsentient), and they feel it deeply. They can absorb other people’s energy (both positive and negative) into their bodies. Sometimes it can be difficult to tell if what you’re feeling belongs to you or someone else. Judith Orloff writes that Empaths are more prone to take on the emotional or physical pain from others that they haven’t yet worked out in themselves, further describing the trait by saying:
“The empath’s body is different from other people’s. We feel everything. Our bodies are porous, so we absorb the positive and negative energies (and emotions) around us into our muscles, tissues, and organs. This can affect our health in many important ways. On the positive side, we’re able to sense other people’s vitality, happiness, and love within ourselves. However, we can also feel other people’s physical discomfort, stress, and negative emotions, such as frustration, anger, and fear (even when they’re unspoken). As empaths, we can get tired and sick when we’re around toxic people, noise, violence, and rushing.”Judith Orloff. The Empath’s Survival Guide
Empath Traits and Characteristics
There are many types of Empaths. Here are some of the many unique traits and characteristics of an Empath:
Characteristics and Traits of Empaths. They are:
- very sensitive to others’ tone of voice and body movements.
- can hear what someone doesn’t say in words but communicate nonverbally and through silence.
- feel things first, then think, which is the opposite of how most people function in our society.
- very sensitive, creative, compassionate, and idealist.
- prone to social anxiety because they’re overwhelmed by the multiple spoken and unspoken signals people give off in groups (Judith Orloff).
- sensitive to rejection.
- have to be soft and delicate to absorb the vibes from other people instead of being tough and repelling all signals.
- can get hurt easily and need to be cautious about being taken advantage of.
- can pick up signals that emanate from others and are sensitive enough to break through the barriers and access their thoughts and feelings.
- absorb the emotions of others.
- being in nature is essential for them to balance and heal
- have high intuition; they often just know things.
- have a gentle and kind nature, BIG hearts, and they love and need peace and harmony.
- good listeners
- love to give and help.
- have sensitive senses.
- deeply love and resonate with nature and animals.
- have sensitive senses.
Susan Forward writes that people find it easy to be around Empaths because they pick up on your vibration and meet you where you are at.
Some of the Challenges Empaths Face:
- often have difficulty with drama; people who talk constantly and are demanding, inauthentic, and toxic.
- often give their hearts too easily to narcissists and other unavailable people.
- loving and trusting and expect others also to be that way (and they are not). This can be a very difficult lesson to learn.
- are often introverted and have minimal tolerance for socializing and small talk.
- bothered by lots of noise, crowds, anger, fighting, and tension.
- need A LOT of alone time to process things.
- can become exhausted and burnt out easily from all they are picking up.
Having Empathy vs Lacking Empathy
I would say most people are empathic human beings. Having empathy is not the same as being an Empath. Empathy means that our hearts go out to another person and what they are experiencing (happy or sad).
Empathy Deficient Disorder
It is thought that the Narcissist, Sociopath and Psychopath have “empathy deficient disorder,” according to Judith Orloff, which may be caused by an underactive mirror neuron system. In Empaths, the brain’s mirror neuron system (responsible for compassion) is thought to be hyperactive.
Cognitive Empathy is a type of empathy that exists only in the mind. Someone displaying Cognitive Empathy:
- can make it seem like genuine empathy, but it is NOT! They can see that another person is upset and can put their mind there, but they don’t feel it! Therefore, they do NOT recognize the needs and feelings of another person.
- can’t feel what is going on for another person, so they do not feel responsible or genuinely care.
Stacy Hoch describes yet another form of empathy called ‘Egocentric Empathy.’ This is where we try to give someone what we would want in the same situation, and this is where Codependents can get stuck.
A Neurological Explanation of The Empath Experience
As mentioned previously, often, Empaths struggle to differentiate between their bodily feelings and those of others. There is no membrane that separates Empaths from the world (while most people have their ‘defences up’), says Judith Orloff. She explains the neurological explanation of an Empath’s experience when she says Synesthesia is a neurological condition in which two different senses are paired in the brain. However, ‘mirror-touch synthesis is where people feel the emotions and sensations in their bodies as if the emotions were their own.’
How and Why Does Being an Empath Develop?
We can indeed simply be born this way. I have also read some interesting theories suggesting its development through childhood neglect, abuse or poor parenting :
“Childhood neglect or abuse can also affect sensitivity levels for adults. A portion of empaths I’ve treated have experienced early trauma, such as emotional or physical abuse, or were raised by alcoholic, depressed, or narcissistic parents. This could potentially wear down the usual healthy defences that a child with nurturing parents develops. As a result of their upbringing, these children typically don’t feel “seen” by their families, and they also feel invisible in the greater world that doesn’t value sensitivity. In all cases, however, empaths haven’t learned to defend against stress in the same way others have.”Judith Orloff. “The Empath’s Survival Guide “
Secondly, Stacy Hoch refers to it as a necessity for survival when babies or children in difficult circumstances have to respond to the needs of the parent/’empath- ing’ (over their own needs). She says, “someone who does not have to empathize with their parents will be more like oil in energy because they do not have to develop that skill to survive because the parent will meet their needs.
Empaths who struggle to meet their own needs can be very self-destructive and self-sabotaging. We are not supposed to ‘work out other people’s things for them.” For me, this deeply resonates as the root of Codependency.
The Necessity of Having Strong Auric Protection
When Judith Orloff speaks about the “usual healthy defences” being potentially broken down due to difficult situations around them as a child, I believe that she is talking about the aura that protects each and every one of us. Diane Kathrine speaks to this when she says:
“Distortions in the aura can appear from an early age and infant or childhood trauma, and illness can result in a weakened aura. A receded aura is caused by experiencing deep hurt and rejection, feeling unloved or unworthy. It can be a knee-jerk reaction to retract the energy field, like retreating into a shell, as a way to prevent themselves from getting hurt again. When the aura shrinks, it becomes destabilized and prone to damage. A strong aura protects against outside negativity, thoughts, energy and even disease. Through a healthy auric field, you radiate inner power and draw in positivity. Your vibrant energy empowers others and helps raise their frequency.”Diane Katherine. “How to Heal Leaky Aura Syndrome: A Guide for Empaths”
Learning to Thrive as an Empath
In conclusion, to thrive as an empath, we must address our wounds and the parts of us that need healing, love and care on an energetic level. As we become whole, it is much easier for us to stop absorbing other people’s emotions and energy to stay balanced and grounded in overstimulating environments and around toxic people and situations.
Pranic Healing has helped me in an immense and invaluable way in regulating my nervous system and deciphering what is my energy, what belongs to me, and what is someone else’s. I believe that learning this “modality” would profoundly benefit all Empaths in navigating this trait! Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT Tapping) can also assist us in regulating our nervous system and healing the wounds that we store in our energy system.
I would love to assist you in balancing your nervous and energy system and finding inner peace and balance! Feel free to reach out and schedule your free 15-minute call today or email email@example.com
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- Are you a Highly Sensitive Person?
- Breyer, Jason. Empath – A Highly Sensitive Person – Develop your gift, use emotional intelligence to turn your high sensitivity into a superpower: Overcome negative mindsets and master your social skills. Kindle Edition.
- Hoch, Stacy. The Empoweress- YouTube.
- Forward, Susan. Mothers Who Can’t Love (pp. 146-147). Harper. Kindle Edition.
- Orloff, Judith. The Empath’s Survival Guide (Kindle Locations 94-100, 207-284, 155-159, 169-170, 192-101). Sounds True. Kindle Edition.
- Kathrine, Diane. How to Heal Leaky Aura Syndrome. 2017